A ‘lesser’ man will have no status
in society, no respect, and he will live an undignified life as a
disempowered person.

Men are expected to be strong, aggressive, tall, handsome,
bold, courageous, rough, tough, emotionless, insensitive,
fearless and practical. They should not be soft, submissive
or weak.

Boys need to be part of a male group.

Everyone chooses to pick on boys perceived to be lower than
themselves, in the race for social manhood.

They are not supposed to have weaknesses or vulnerabilities.
They must not show feelings as these would make them
appear weak or vulnerable.

They should always be prepared to fight their way. They
should never retreat from a physical fight. Others should
fear them. They should physically defend their family and
work hard to earn to support it.


A real man is expected to have hobbies such as smoking,
drinking, fast driving, chasing girls, and playing outdoor
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sports like cricket, football, etc. They should not have
‘girlie’ hobbies like cooking, decorating, sewing (silaikadhai),
dancing, etc.

Some of the other messages that we get are that real men:
• Don’t cry
• Don’t feel pain
• Are not shy
• Hit their women (wife or girlfriend)
• Are not ‘beautiful’, but are ‘smart’


sexual roles
A man should have unflinching sexual interest in women.
- This interest should be present all the time..
- He should have a big penis.
- He should have perfectly hard erections, which should
stay till the woman reaches orgasm – at any time the woman
wants sex.
- A man should be able to sexually satisfy women.
- A man should be able to produce children.
- A masculine male wishes to penetrate (and a feminine male,
like women, wants to get penetrated)
- A man may not have any sexual interest in other males
beyond wanting to penetrate them.
- A man may not love another man.
- Above all, a man should get married.

1. exaggerate sexual desire for girls
manhood and social power comes
from encounters with women, and chasing females is glorified as
the natural essence of being a man
2. There is no way they can complain without
compromising their manhood. --> dont complain

Males spend their entire lives into the herds they join
where they form close bonds with other males.
Boys need to grow up with other boys in male-only spaces to develop
their true masculinity. It helps them learn about being male and
experience the world as a male.
Society may have artificially made women the source of men’s social
masculinity, but a man’s real masculinity and happiness comes from
bonding with other men. This is what makes a male a man.
If they lose this opportunity when they are young, they can
never make up for it in the future.

Gyms used to be a man’s place where they built their bodies and
bonded with other men.

“Masculinity….. is confirmed only by other men” –Camille Paglia

Take risks. Crashing and burning is often a lot of fun and will teach you things you can't learn in school. Remember when your parents told you not to test limits? Don’t listen to them. By testing limits, you will no longer be using someone else’s approximation of what is acceptable, you will know exactly where the line is.



interest
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1. The race for social manhood
2. Breaking men from men